A virus we can’t see has changed our world. All of sudden, events are cancelled and places we counted on are closed. Individually, our … Read the rest
Couples often ask me why they can’t seem to get out of their negative cycle and change the dysfunctional behaviors that often lead to escalating conflicts. I typically explain how our sympathetic nervous system reacts to stress in relationship, particularly when we … Read the rest
My wife and I are celebrating our 29th wedding anniversary this year. We were high school sweethearts and dated for several years before marrying in our early twenties, so essentially we have shared our lives since adolescence. That time has been … Read the rest
One of my greatest lessons in relationship has been the acceptance that knowing someone, truly knowing someone, is a work in progress. A willingness to keep knowing my partner is the single most important element in our relationship.
I met my husband … Read the rest
This summer my husband, Adrian, and I celebrated six years of marriage with a much-needed baby-free overnight downtown. We’ve done a lot together since we met – traveled far and wide, moved provinces (sometimes together, sometimes not), changed careers (both of us, … Read the rest
For parents, divorce is not the end of the couple’s journey together. While the relationship may have changed from loving to hostile, parents don’t have the same luxury of leaving behind the relationship that childless couples do. This is because the co-parenting … Read the rest
Do you find the very idea of relationship counselling quite nerve-wracking or downright scary? If you do, you’re not alone. Many people, especially those with no clue about what to expect, find themselves apprehensive and even somewhat frightened.
When you’re new to … Read the rest
Besides the fact that they are soft and cuddly, goofy, funny, smart, loyal and loving…
Dogs have cracked the code. Dogs have an amazing ability to activate in humans the same biochemical response that enhances bonding between mothers and newborn babies.
When … Read the rest
An excerpt from the poem Friendship by David Whyte says: “…the ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the self nor of the other, the ultimate touchstone is witness, the privilege of having been seen by someone and the … Read the rest
A guide to discussing sex and sexuality with your significant other
True intimacy is about getting to know and understand someone deeply. Learning about who our partner is sexually is part of that.
Our past experiences around sex contribute to our thoughts, … Read the rest
This is a great exercise couples can use when you start to feel disconnected or if you are already feeling disconnected. The goal of this exercise is to create more intimacy in your relationship.
It sounds really simple: on a given … Read the rest
The message of finding “the one” so that you can live “happily ever after in love” is everywhere. Movies, books, TV shows, magazines are just a few of the many places that build this myth. Buying into it can be dangerous because … Read the rest
Reflecting back on our wedding day brings back joyful memories. “It was the best day of my life,” many say with pride. It was, after all, a marvelous, happy day filled with anticipation, love and promise.
Promises were made that day in … Read the rest
5 ways to start the year cultivating connection
As we look ahead to 2016, it’s a good time to reflect on what we want to have, do, feel, experience and be in 2016 – and to start with our most significant relationship … Read the rest
My personal path to understanding the value of therapy during my own challenging times.“What does a counsellor know that I don’t?” That’s a question I asked myself before starting therapy: my exact words were “What can some counsellor do for me … Read the rest