Kevin Rose – Associate Counselor
Kevin Rose is a Registered Professional Counsellor (RPC 3433) with the Canadian Professional Counsellors Association (CPCA) and a Registered Therapeutic Counsellor (RTC 2039) with The Association of Cooperative Counselling Therapist of Canada. He holds a diploma in Transpersonal Psychology and a Bachelor of Arts degree in English Lit. and Psychology from the University of British Columbia. He offers private counselling services for:
- individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, relationship problems, addiction, grief, trauma, and men’s issues
- couples experiencing problems with intimacy and communication, or the pain of emotional or sexual affairs
Although painful and unwelcome, crisis is an opportunity from which to re-evaluate our relationships with ourselves, our partners and our community. In counselling the therapist joins forces with you to help unpack your struggle by widening the scope of the ‘problem’ to support deeper self-awareness…and begin a journey toward peace, self-acceptance and connection. In order to see through the struggle it helps to take a deeper view of how we have come to make our decisions, and specifically how our past experiences are colouring our present.
Rather than try to suppress or avoid discomfort, we actively examine thoughts and feelings as they arise in the emotional safety of the counselling session. Much of the work I do is about helping clients learn to tolerate anxiety. As you learn to observe the sensations and thoughts that manifest as anxiety you deepen your knowledge of what drives your reactions, and as a result new choices and ways of being in the world unfold. You move from being reactive to being proactive and purposeful.
You don’t have to be alone in your struggle, and counselling sessions help you expand your existing support system. Often shame or guilt keeps us stuck in rigid ways of being, in repetitive cycles of negative thoughts and feelings. While the goal of counselling is not specifically to make you ‘feel better,’ getting in a new relationship with your thoughts and emotions is empowering and connective. As we move safely through feelings of anger, sadness or loneliness we literally make more room to experience peace, self-acceptance…and joy. We get ‘better at feeling.’
My wife and I came to counselling while in the midst of relationship crisis: our feelings were raw, and it was very difficult to see our way through the emotional chaos. We are well into our third decade together and we have the aforementioned counselling process to thank! We’ve learned ways of nurturing ourselves and each other, and actively support each other and our family to be our best selves. Together we have learned that love is more than a feeling: it is a skill, a set of shared values that we express by risking being vulnerable with each other.
When working with couples I facilitate the process of making it safe for partners to be vulnerable and honest, untangling the spiral of reaction that so often happens as we trigger each other. The process of building awareness, compassion and communication skills makes room for a renewed passion for life, and deeper levels of intimacy.
While my practice is primarily empathic or person-centred, I also approach a current struggle by looking at it from a wider “systemic” view: Bowen Family Systems Theory places the struggle in the context of a larger family dynamic. We learn to see how our past influences our present so we can remain authentic and autonomous while remaining in emotional contact with others.
I also reference attachment theory and employ Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) when working with relationships. I focus on emotions as they naturally arise in session, and use Gestalt exercises to allow these to have full, safe expression. This practice is less about catharting or releasing emotions and more about becoming aware of and responsible for them as they unfold in our relationships.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) helps anchor new ways of being, of living from values instead of reaction. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps develop tolerance for and acceptance of emotional pain by gently building mindfulness and challenging our attachment to our old ‘story.’ We learn to live purposively alongside our trauma rather than giving it energy by avoiding, numbing or rejecting it.
And the perspective of Transpersonal Psychology challenges existential loneliness by building connection with our selves, with others, and with our community.
Education and Professional Registration
- Registered Professional Counsellor, RPC #3433
- Registered Therapeutic Counsellor, RTC #2029
- University of British Columbia- Bachelor of Arts, English Literature and Psychology, 1986; Continuing education in Psychology and Counselling Psychology 2012-14
- Clearmind International Institute-Three year Counsellor Practitioner Training in Transpersonal Psychology, 2013
- Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy– Externship, July 2013
- Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy-How to Engage Healing and Transformance, December 2014
- Clearmind International Institute-Co-instructor for level 1 Counsellor Practitioner Training program in Transpersonal Psychology, 2013-2015