Ly Nguyen – Associate Counsellor
I am a Registered Therapeutic Counsellor (RTC # 2419) with the Association of Cooperative Counselling Therapists of Canada. I have always been fascinated with Counselling, yet it wasn’t until my mid twenties that I found myself being called to do my own personal work and step into life as a therapist. For the longest time, I remember living life in survival mode. I was constantly living on guard, waiting and preparing for the next bad thing to happen to me, and what I would need to do to overcome the obstacle. I fixated all of my energy on surviving; not trusting the world is a safe place and most of all, not believing that I deserve to be happy in life.
Eventually I found myself hitting rock bottom, completely exhausted from fighting life and quintessentially fighting against myself. I had struggled through an eating disorder, episodes of depression, and experiencing the end of another toxic relationship. Completely depleted and lost, I stopped trying to run away or fixing things. I remember saying to myself and to the universe, “I don’t know how to make things better but I can’t continue living this way anymore.”
With my small ounce of willingness, I found myself embarking on my own healing journey. By choosing to look at the pain inside me, I was able explore the origin of the pain and re-wire new healthier pathways for the future.
Life is full of ups and down, the ebbs and flows are inevitable. There will be times we are excelling in life and things are going wonderfully. Yet at other times we will encounter challenges that may shake us to our core. Whether it’s a job change, the end of a relationship, or a loss of a close friend, these situations can elicit tremendous emotions in us. Or we can find ourselves feeling sad and numb for far too long and wanting to experience something different. This is when counselling can be helpful. Pain and suffering is unavoidable, we all feel pain, yet only we have the power to choose whether to deal with our pain and ask for support there.
In my counselling sessions I bring forth non-judgment, compassion and intuition along with my therapeutic skills. I practice Bowen’s Family System Theory, Gestalt, and Psychodrama techniques as some of the tools to help my clients discover the underlying causes of their current struggles.
I believe my clients are capable of moving through their own struggles. As Carl Roger says “it’s the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried.”
As a therapist, it is an honor to support my client and hold space for them as they bravely revisit their past experiences.