Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples
Strengthen your bond as a couple, feel more connected, and rediscover the purpose of your relationship.
EFT is a short-term approach to helping distressed couples find their way back to a loving and close relationship. The process helps you to let your guard down and feel safe with your partner, opening the door for intimacy and re-connection to take place. Although our natural instinct is to move towards each other, we tend to override it when we feel upset in our relationship, usually based on things that happened previously in this relationship or somewhere in our past. Fearful of our emotional response, we turn away as a means of protecting ourselves. EFT supports couples to reconnect with this natural instinct of closeness and attachment. EFT can be one of the quickest and easiest ways to go to the core of a couple’s distress patterns. Because it is an approach that supports both of you, many couples find it an effective way to get from distant or gridlocked conflict, towards a space where partners can rediscover a secure and loving bond.
EFT was developed by leading Canadian psychologists, Dr. Susan Johnson and Dr. Leslie Greenberg. The course of therapy usually takes 12 to 30 sessions, as couples are guided through the following process of therapy:
Stage One involves looking at the negative or non-helpful cycle you are in. Understanding this current cycle and the underlying emotions helps identify the roadblocks hindering the desire to feel closer to each other.
Stage Two is about reconnecting, learning to accept your experience as well as your partner’s, getting to discover aspects of yourself, and learning new ways of interacting with one another.
Stage Three consolidates your new way of being together and explores new solutions to your old patterns. You are able to apply these new skills to moving toward each other. If you are looking to strengthen your bond and feel more connected as a couple, this may be the time for you to try some EFT session with one of the Steadfast Counsellors.