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Taking Care of Yourself
Article for VancouverMom.ca
Mothering is a job that requires you to use every fibre of your being. It calls on you to use your heart, mind and soul. You are constantly in a state of learning and growing. For this reason, as mothers, it’s vital to replenish ourselves regularly.
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Call in Show with Laura Bradley & Lisa Delusignan
Waiting for the "Magic Pill" to Love
Wednesday, April 6th, 6-7PM 102.7FM
There is a song on the radio right now, with the lyrics, “If you are going to do it somewhere, why not here? if you are going to do it sometime, why not now?” I like it because we all spend too much time thinking about making our life better in the future, like the goodies of life are out there somewhere. As if our lives start in the future.
We come up with a variety of excuses about not doing what we know we could be doing to feel happier or have more love and joy in our lives. The reason are endless and can range from, “I had a hard childhood, I have to heal my past first, people in my family don’t do that, I can’t do that, Its not possible, I’ll never get there, Its too hard, its to easy, I don’t have enough money, time, talents” or met the “right” person yet...the list goes on and on.
And even when we have help and are shown the thing that is the next step we still somehow look for a fix for the current apparent problem, really a short cut. On the front of Oprah magazine this month, the tag line is, “Can a single pill heal your past?” This is somewhat appealing if we believe once our past is healed we could somehow have a happier more successful love filled life. That ultimately something is wrong with us and we need to be fixed.
What if the process of “fixing” was an integral part of having a fulfilling, happier and more connected life. What if the process of living is what contributes to being happy….
What if all you want is available to you right now? You can fall in love right now, you can feel successful right now, joy right now. It is that simple....if you are willing to commit to what you want.
If you are going to do it somewhere how about here, if you are going to do it sometime... how about now!
Call in Show with Laura Bradley & Lisa Delusignan
Love: What is it Good For?
Wednesday, September 8th, 6-7PM 102.7FM
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Usually, there is a point in time where we all ask ourselves this question: Is a relationship more pain or gain? We as humans are pretty relationship driven and are often fixated on the attainment or the sustaining of our love relationships, yet we so often fail. We are not very good at loving and yet it is our natural state.
On one hand, statistics on divorces and philandering are exploding. On the other, we crave and strive for honest, integrity and connection. Some people would say we are not wired for monogamy that is how come we fail. Is Polyamory a more enlightened & natural way of being? Is the emergence of open relationships a new way of creating love/higher consciousness? or is monogamy closer to our natural and evolved essence? A way to create safety and sustainability in order to thrive in the universe? What are its gifts and hazards of both? How does this interact transpersonally and interpersonally? Laura & Lisa will explore these issues as well as answer emailed questions from listeners before that date.
Call in Show with Laura Bradley & Lisa Delusignan
Intention
Wednesday, September 29th, 6-7PM 102.7FM
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Intention: what is your relationship with intention really about? Is it a new tool you use in order to have some sort of influence over what happens in the external aspects of your life? For instance if my intention was to have a life full an abundance of love and in doing that my hope would that some how that would delivery me a loving relationship. Or is your relationship with intention a tool you use in order to have a guiding principal in your life. If my intention was to have a life full of an abundance of love then that becomes my guiding principal and starts to influence who I am and how I respond to every relationship and event. Tune in to find out and discuss the difference between external influence and internal influence has on your life and those around you.
Call in Show with Laura Bradley & Lisa Delusignan
Is it Trust we need?
Wednesday, July 28th 6-7PM 102.7FM
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We hear constantly, "trust in the process," just trust, everything is going to be ok, "if you trust your intuition you are on the right path." All of this is great advice in theory but how do we really do that, and what is needed to make that stick?
Sometimes it is to learn to let go of expectations, attachments to things that hamper the happiness that we are seeking. At the time it seems to be a senseless painful experience but looking back often we can find unexpected gifts.
So if knowing that things ultimately turn out to bring us closer to ourselves and the world and potentially bring us more joy, what is it that makes it so difficult to have trust? And what can we do to bring more trust into our consciousness? Is it trust that is the missing component to more joy?
Listen and Call in to Lisa and Laura with your questions on how to enhance your day to day happiness and fulfillment in your relationships, career and romance and what it is we need to effect that change. Tune in and the number to call in live will be given.
Relationships Co-Op Radio
Nov 19, 2008 - How our Family of Origin affects our Relationships
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What we learn:
This is where we learn how and who to be in relationship. It is the playground where we create our relationship myths from: Men will always leave; a good man is hard to find; I can not trust a women; women are just in for a free ride; in a relationship you can't have commitment and fun; you can't have your dreams filled inside a relationship; or committed relationship comes at a cost to personal fulfillment.
Who we pick:
We pick someone who presents that they will fulfill the needs that were not met when we were young; we are attracted to someone with a lot of the negative and positive characteristics of our parents. The question is, what do you do with them. Do you use them to create a smaller and more confined box or relationship, or do you use them to rewrite the story and have a more fulfilled relationship and life?
How we pick:
In the beginning we look for who is going to make us feel good, who makes us feel smart, special, good looking, capable, competent, safe and more complete. We look for characteristics that we either received or didn't receive from our parents. They are going to show up in some form in our relationships. These are the things that attract us and can break us apart.
How we get stuck:
We get stuck when we either run from what is not working. We blame it on the other person because they are not being what we need them to be or not being what we had imagined them to be. If they are what we wanted them to be, we become bored with the safe little box we have created in our relationship and begin to search for things outside ourselves to feel fulfilled. Both ways we end up blaming our relationship for not meeting our needs. This reinforces our idea that something outside of ourselves is going to complete us or make us feel better!
Fanny Kiefer Show
May 29, 2008
On this show Laura Bradley talks to Fanny Kiefer about the wonderful and delicate time when you first fall in love. She deals with the importance of still nurturing yourself and your outside relationships when everything in you just wants to be in this new relationship, as well what to do when your friends and your new partner do not like each other... and much more
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Previous Radio Shows
- May 28, 2008 - Relationships Co-Op Radio
Laura Bradley talks about relationships on Co op radio. She talks about issues how to know if this is the "right" relationship, when is it time to leave or when is it time to take the next step, how to find relationship and how to create a more intimate relationship when it feels like yours is gone flat. These are questions that most of us that have entered into a relationship ask at one point.
Previous Videos
- March 7, 2008
Looking thru your value system for Mr. or Mrs. Right.
- February, 2008
You are the common denominator in your dating dilemma.
Counselling Articles featuring Laura Bradley
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